Why Being Yourself Matters (read it on lifehack.org)
Why Read It? Because there will never be anyone else like you in the future of the universe.
- Being yourself is more important than anything else; certainly more than the fear that traps people into conforming.
- If you can’t trust yourself, why should others trust you? Being who and what you are is the most natural thing there is. To suppress it, whether through fear, yielding to social pressure, or lack of confidence always leads to trouble.
- Conformity implies a fundamental mistrust of others: Conservative thinkers often suggest too much freedom will lead to anarchy and the collapse of all standards. Since they cannot trust others to behave reasonably, they always want more rules.
- Add some spice to your life: Many people suppress their ideas, hopes, and dreams because they're afraid to stand out and draw attention to themselves.
"The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice...it is conformity." Rollo May, Man's Search for Himself."
Reasons You Don't Say How You Feel (read it on psychcentral.com)
Why Read It? Here are common reasons why people find it difficult to express their emotions to others; learning why you have trouble expressing your feelings can go a long way into changing that behavior.
- Mind Reading: You believe that others should know how you feel and what you need (although you have not disclosed what you need).
- Spontaneity: You believe that you have the right to say what you think and feel when you are upset.
- Marytydom: You are afraid to admit that you are angry, hurt, or resentful because you do not want to give anyone the satisfaction of knowing that her or his behavior is unacceptable.
- Passive-Aggressive Behavior: You hold your hurt or angry feelings inside instead of disclosing what you feel.
- Emotional Perfectionism: You believe that people will belittle or reject you if they know how you really feel.
- Fear of Disapproval and Rejection: You feel an excessive need to please people and to meet what you perceive to be their expectations and are afraid that people would not like you if you expressed your thoughts and feelings.
- Hopelessness: You are convinced that your relationship cannot improve no matter what you do.
"While the stereotype is that men have the hardest time expressing their emotions, everyone at one time or another in their life may find it difficult to say how they feel."
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